A woman of valor, who can find? Her worth is far beyond that of rubies.
The bolded portion of the above quote probably sounds familiar if you watched this past season of that cheesy, guilty-pleasure reality show Bachelor in Paradise. Ironically, you might also know this passage from Proverbs 31. If you’re a learned Jewish individual, you know it as Eishes Chayil (“Woman of Valor”), the song a man sings to his wife praising her many virtues each Friday night before Shabbat dinner. I made a mental note when Jenna first showed Jordan that tattoo with these words: Is Jenna a woman of valor? My mind was open and I was on this journey (AKA glued to the tube for four ludicrous hours each week) to find out.
When the season premiered, I wasn’t exactly sure what to make of Jordan Kimball, the image-obsessed male model who didn’t seem like he could possibly let a woman get in a word edgewise. We first saw him strut his stuff, discuss his multiple modelesque expressions, and don a golden speedo during Becca Kufrin’s season of The Bachelorette.
However, along with many other viewers this season of Bachelor in Paradise, I discovered that Jordan Kimball was multidimensional: He possessed the ability to make fun of his self and even was able to listen. Despite some meltdowns and mini tantrums, he seemed like a doting friend and boyfriend. The cad and “villain” of Becca’s season slowly started to win us over, little by little, as he persistently courted Jenna Cooper.
Some of his methods – warring with others guys vyying for Jenna’s affections (David, Benoit) – were questionable, if not downright and dirty. However, Jordan was certain about this bleached bottle-blond who was a bit of a broken bird, and who reminded me (just a tad) of Marilyn Monroe.
To Jordan, there was something about Jenna, beyond the pretty face with false lashes and bright red lipstick and her enviable bikini bod. She seemed vulnerable, emotional, grappling with trust issues and confidence about good things happening to her. She claimed to be looking for love and by our initial estimations, she seemed worthy of finding her Prince Charming.
Described as “kooky” and somewhat of an oddball, Jordan seemed captivated and under her spell…so much so that within a few short weeks, he was talking babies and teasing her about awful name choices for their future offspring.
Last night, Jordan went on Reality Steve‘s podcast to discuss what the host had uncovered: Texts from Jenna to another paramour indicating that the relationship between Jenna and Jordan was fake, that she was “better than him” and was using Jordan for some sort of a business opportunity.
While admitting he was still shell-shocked, Jordan made it clear to Steve that he was not in denial and can fully acknowledge that Jenna was the one to write those texts. “I’m not basing this off of three texts. There’s more to it,” Jordan told Steve, who admitted Jenna never contacted him to say the texts were fake or fabricated in some way. Jordan has plans to visit Jenna and hear what she has to say, but for now he is stepping away from their relationship and all plans are indefinitely on hold. That includes the previously discussed June 2019 wedding (where Bachelor host Chris Harrison was to officiate!).
Jenna, for her part, took to Instagram in the eleventh hour and after significant pause, to say she’d prove those texts were phony and somebody had set her up.
After listening to the Reality Steve interview , what are your thoughts on the fate of Jenna and Jordan’s relationship?
Jordan thought he had found his woman of valor. Another passage in that same aforementioned ancient proverb states: “She is good to him, never bad, all the days of her life.”
I’m not surprised that this relationship turned sour because of something very pivotal that Jordan said in the interview. What viewers have to understand – he explained to Steve – is that he knew Jenna a very short time.
That is the reality behind the reality TV show. In a few short weeks time, we often have few words to go by to trust a person outside of a contained and controlled setting. Don’t be fooled by the promise scrawled in a back tattoo..and the power of lust.